I saw this article and as I was reading it I thought this is a good example of what I mean when Christian language is used to drive home a point. In this case that point is the significance of attending the visible church every Sunday. here is the article in its entirety.
https://careynieuwhof.com/what-you-never-know-you-miss-by-skipping-sunday-morning/
My thoughts are in red. Please read to the end because even though many of my thoughts are frustrating , I close my thoughts out with a very good summary I believe most believers will find acceptable.  




I thought missing a Sunday morning service wasn’t a big deal.
The power of this "day" is beginning to take shape here. 
I have worked at Connexus Church for 8 years and would only miss a Sunday because I was away on vacation.  Quite honestly, I didn’t think missing a Sunday was a big deal. It’s not a sin. It’s not earth-shattering. No one notices (or do they?).  Right?Then I had a baby and went on maternity leave.  
And I started to participate in our church community like most people do. The reason this gets confusing and frustrating is because differing views use the same language  as the others. They use the same verses, etc. Here this writer call the visible church a "community."
And everything changed.
Because, when I miss a Sunday service, I miss way more than I ever thought.
From birthday parties to a sick baby, a variety of reasons had kept me from participating on Sunday mornings. I would watch online. And online is great to keep me connected when I can’t be there in person. Or to share with friends and neighbors who are curious about church but not ready to come. So easy!
But – given the choice – attending on Sunday morning trumps all else. Every time. this is how I grew up, thinking this. The fall out from this mentality is truly immeasurable.
Why?
When I skip Sunday morning…

1. I Miss Uninterrupted Time to Listen for God’s Wisdom

Sunday’s practical teaching translates into godly wisdom that I can apply daily life – it is so valuable. 
I gotta be honest here. Its takes all I have not to lose my lunch at this point ( but it gets worse )  but honestly , I feel sorry for this person. Notice how things get switched in our thinking. It is now OUR "practical teaching"  that gets "translated into Godly wisdom."  

Folks, Its Gods complete Word that changes me. Take it or leave it. Not MY thinking translated into anything. People will say this writer did not mean it the way I am hearing it but trust me. They see it this way. I did for decades so I know. And I see the results of this in my family and friends. Results such as confusion and frustration and hopelessness. 

Sure, you can hear great teaching in a variety of ways. But listening online is different than listening in the service. this is true. Listening online (which I do plenty of) is just you & God. This writer will list many distractions associated with this but it does not need to be this way. 
Also this writer assumes that when their child is cared for , that this will eliminate many distractions. They also assume we can leave our distractions outside the door.
I don’t know about you, but when I listen at home I have a long to-do list. A child that loves attention. A phone that rings. Floors to sweep. Laundry to fold. Neighbors’ dogs barking. I almost never absorb the message in the same way as I do when physically present on Sunday. Many will say II am nit picking at this point and that's ok I guess. But this idea that we need to somehow "absorb" some message is ingrained in us from a very early age. This has become part of the church experience. 
When I’m in the service, I have uninterrupted time. Time to focus on what God is teaching me and reflect on how He wants me to grow. My child is being cared for, my phone is on silent, and there are no chores waiting for me. 6 days of interrupted time vrs 1 morning (not even a full morning at that) equals todays church experience. No problem there :-/
I can focus. I can engage my heart and mind. 

2. I Miss the Value of Worshiping God through Music with Others

This one is interesting.  And might even be surprising to you.
There’s something intangible that happens when we worship God – out loud – with hundreds of people who share faith in Jesus. Look up the word intangible in your dictionary and we can see that this is what "itching ears" want to hear these days. This thinking can only come from being around hundred's of people , most of whom we do not know (so relationship is either eliminated at this point or the concept of relationship gets changed. Either or is not good) 
Sundays are an irreplaceable opportunity to take a step back from the busy day-to-day and directly praise the God that loves me and is incredibly worthy of my worship. imagine seeing this DAY as an "irreplaceable opportunity." So many Christian concepts get lost or are made fuzzy when we isolate different areas of our daily walk with God. My focus needs to turn back to how I'm praying and living for God during the "busy day-to-day"  stuff. 
Music roots my heart and mind in the truth of who God is. It remembers and celebrates powerful scripture. It leads me to humble myself before God’s majesty in a way that doesn’t always happen when music playing in the car or in the background while I do the dishes.
Worshiping God through music on Sunday’s – with hundreds of people – grounds and fuels my faith.
It inspires me to keep worshiping, keep believing, keep serving, keep loving. The language here is so confusing and abstract it is tough to comprehend. All this thinking brought about by our trying to eliminate distractions and do so with hundred's of other people doing the same. Its like Christian schizophrenia . And this can go on for a long long time. I cant tell who the worship is for with this kind of thinking. (bold/underlined)

3. I Miss the Power and Movement of the Church

The Church(thing 1) has a mission and purpose.  And every believer(thing 2) is part of it. imagine , us being a PART of it , instead of BEING it.  We get to spread the amazing news that Jesus Christ loves you, died to forgive you, and he is alive, bringing new life to all who believe in him. the downward trend is staggering. Now we "get" to do this. Can we see a slight shift here. What we ARE becomes something we GET to do. That is because somehow , thing 1 and thing 2 became separated.  What an incredible message to sit on.

We can be a Christian and not actively participate in the local Church. again with the separation  Our salvation is not dependent on that. It’s dependent on Jesus.
But there’s more at stake than that…whenever someone says "there's more" look out. Christians all know its Jesus and Jesus alone. Our daily walk and how we are to live it should not fall into the "there's more" mindset. I happen to be a product of hearing over and over Jesus is the only way but there's more. A constantly being told over the years , indirectly , that I'm doing it wrong has led me to confusion of all sorts .This emphasis on attending church every Sunday is just another example. 
Imagine this:
Your life is a babbling brook. It twists and turns and bubbles and splashes. It’s beautiful.  But has little strength.
But, what happens when you cross paths with another brook. And another. And another?
Something bigger starts to happen. Something one babbling brook can’t do on its own.
Momentum happens.
Then power happens.
Then Niagara falls happens! (Note: did you know Niagara falls generates enough energy to power almost 4 million homes? No babbling brook does that.)
In the same way, 100s (or 1000s) of people moving in the same God-given direction is POWERFUL.  And it doesn’t happen when we are disengaged. and this is an inevitable sad conclusion to this current modern day thinking of the way we do "church." Even in this analogy , where does the power come from? It comes from the meeting with other people. It is as if God is waiting around for people to gather together so that He can do His thing and we call this "church." It is so hard to respond this way when we can clearly see what God does when many call on His name. But my heart breaks as I read and re read this article because I have lived a majority of my Christian walk thinking this way. That Sunday is the beginning of my next week rather than a celebration of the week I just went thru.

When I miss Sunday mornings, I miss how God is moving our church community to action..
When I miss the host’s welcome, connecting opportunities and the stories of God at work, I miss getting to be part of it because I don’t know how.
I don’t want to miss being part of the power and movement of God’s Church.
Plus, if I’m not there, then how can I bring anyone with me?
So – I do everything I can to attend a Sunday morning service.
Because when I miss a Sunday, I miss way more than I ever thought.
Will you make a commitment to Sunday morning’s with me, too?

Folks, we need each other , there is no question about that. We were never intended to walk this walk alone. But to delegate such tremendous authority to one day is too much for me too fathom. That's a tough confession given that I just spent 50 yrs thinking this. Lets get this put back into its proper order , can we. A gathering of the saints is a time of celebration after 6 days of walking and communing with Jesus. Just because we meet on the first day of the week does not mean we are to use that day as a springboard into the rest of the week. People fall into a pattern of :
we blow it all week than we go and get refilled weekly..
rather than ,
we walked with God all week (that so called busy day-to-day stuff) and we celebrate Gods mercy weekly.

We all know that satan has been at work a long time trying to un do what God has done an he has done so by reversing all God has done. Even as I type out my responses I must be ever so watchful that I am not deceived. I realize that all of my reactions typed in RED can be scrutinized as well and who likes that? I have had five decades of what we call church life and all this gets met with is more church talk. Redefined words and language permeates our speech. All I am doing with this response is to caution those who believe that the CHURCH can somehow miss going to "church". 
I plan on attending our small weekly gathering until otherwise directed not too. To leave or to stay is not my call. I need to be sure I am walking daily in a pleasing way to God (again, that day-to-day stuff we call distractions) but if I stay to much on even that line of thinking, then it becomes MY WALK that takes precedence . So all I did was to replace some day of the week with my walk.
The point is, anything (and I mean ANYTHING) that takes my eyes off Jesus will eventually take me to whatever my eyes are on. Whether its "my walk" or some "day" of the week.  Does it ever seem like Christians are walking on a tightrope in these last days. That's because we are! Anything that puts me in the mainstream (kind of like that analogy above) I am going to examine because we all need to know where that stream is leading.