Sun morning 6/19 wedding.

Last Saturday was our sons wedding.
I've been wondering why I'd have difficulty posting about it.
Since this blog is about perspectives before & after the understanding of God's Word in context, what better way to convey that, than marriage.

The relationship between marriage & God's Word is vital. Marriage is second in my thinking. Only the gospel is more important. Reading God's Word thru showed me that
and I love discussing it.
It was our oldest son so I should be eager to post thoughts.
The fact that everything went perfect and these two should be together should be plenty to rejoice about.

But it's not the first wedding our family has had.
No matter what anyone says, a daughters wedding is different than a sons. It's just a fact.

All marriages are formed under a dark cloud, it's just some more so than others.

Oh, but wait. Did I say "marriages, formed under a dark cloud."
I can hear it now - "that's not nice, that's not romantic"
Maybe, but it is realistic.

The differences between the two wedding, of my oldest son and my daughter, are as polar opposite as anyone could imagine.
But the similarities these, and all marriages are formed under, in this culture, can not be ignored.

Both (similarities & differences) breed delusion, if not careful and if not in constant prayer & communication thru God's entire Word.

I know what it's like, to hand over clear obvious signs of disaster to wishful & hopeful thinking.
I know what it's like, to set aside God's clear direction, in favor of cultural standards.

Given the fact that all marriages, again, some more so than others, begin way out of the bounds God intended, by us not knowing that can very well be the starting place for intense delusion.

Practically every marriage I know, my own included, began this way (out God's bounds)

I have stated countless times on this blog, that ignorance of God's complete Word has done more than one can imagine, to deceive todays post modern believer.
If we think marriage has escaped that deception, then there's your prove of that.

For today's believers, this deception comes cleverly wrapped.
It's wrapped in a "falling in love" mindset that's tied with an "ignorance of God's Word "string.

(gee, that doesn't sound nice)

Folks today don't see marriage as a design. One that begins long before two people meet.
It begins when we put our trust in Jesus that first time.
That is, if the new believer develops a life of prayer & reading God's Word (thru)

Instead, today's believers are made to adapt and adjust to every new concept and different situations, which has them putting a positive ("christian ")  spin on whatever comes along.

Since it" looks "so good, most don't question it. We just go along with the flow.

I myself grew up during the early stages of a diluting the gospel, so I liken myself to that frog, in a pot of water while the heat gets slowly turned up (the frog never senses it, till he's cooked)

This would set the stage for our children's view of marriage, but only more intense in the delusional aspects of it.
Is it any wonder, half of all marriages fail.
And it all begins in the Christian home. Amazing.

For the believer in this culture, to begin a marriage without an understanding of God's Word in context is like a one arm, one leg blind guy,trying to build a skyscraper, without any blueprints.

I'm tempted to say, I wish someone had told me that prior to getting married, but knowing me. I probably wouldn't have listened.

My reasons for posting this way is, we tend to guage the success or failure to marriage on the wrong outward signs.

I credit the twisted way our Bible's get read, for this.
Seems everything eventually begins there.
Add too that, endless books given over to finding the formula for a good marriage.

What gets left behind is the fallen state we're all in.
By not keeping that ever before us places marriage in the same light everything else gets in this culture (including the Bible) and that light consists of a bunch of "do this & don't do that's"

Interpreting life this way leaves us frustrated. Also depressed.
So many people "do" what they think they should and when it doesn't yield what they thought, they wonder what they did wrong.

Except for not understanding marriage in our fallen state, a person wondering that didn't "do" anything wrong.
We can even learn God's truth from failed marriages.
Just consider what is needed to keep the marriage intact and know that whatever you come up with,God does that and more, for the believer everyday.

I pray that christian young couples get there heads out of culture and into God's Word. That's the only place the truth resides.

All that said, I must make note, before ending this post, that if I were to choose one word to describe my son's wedding, the word would have to be 'perfect.'
And that's not just because he happens to be my son either (but that's a big factor though :-)

From the ceremony to the reception, from the brides family to even the weather - perfect.
That's not to say this will be an easy road for these two. But with solid biblical mindsets along with not one, but two families praying for them, I'd say they are off to a good start.
I've never been more proud of my son than on that day.
It hasn't been easy. We're not promised "easy."

So what makes a strong marriage?
Building on the absolutes of God's Word.

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