So, how blessed am I?

Today, May 11,is my anniversary.
Thirty one years ago I had no clue to what I was in for. So many things I didn't understand.
I asked Mindy, a quiet soft spoken woman to be my wife and on this day, 31 years ago, that happened.

I talk a lot about context in this blog and what better place than marriage is there, to mention that.

Think about who you know and who you think you know.

There is no one on this  earth that  knows me.
 No one but my wife.
She's the only one who knows my life in context.

Now if anyone thinks that's un romantic, I've got news for you.
Your wrong!

We live in a world where people rarely truly know one another.
Just think of all those who think they know you.

Because of our  insecurities  in all of us, we were forced to redefine words as a way to accommodate these insecurities and that has had an effect on us as to how we relate to others.

But too truly know someone, we need to live with them.
That holds true w/God as well.
Sometimes I wonder if we confuse, being aware of things, with people,  with knowing them.

I'm fully aware of how friendships are
formed.
That's not what I'm addressing.

When people think they know something, of their own doing, this gives them a false sense of authority.
Most times, the only ones their fooling are themselves.
A majority of our acquaintances are with those of whom we know "about."


This is no small matter, although many will think it is small.
If we think we can know something or someone, apart from God's Word, we aren't thinking straight.

Christians are much to casual when they say things like "I know God."
If our saying that is based on anything but God's Word in context, it's fair to question one saying that.
That's because, our present day definition of "knowing someone" has radically changed.

I am forever thankful God gave us marriage.
It's as if God knew we'd struggle with comprehending us having a relationship with Him,  so He gave us marriage.

I mean, think about it.
Two completely different creations, opposite each other, coming to love each other and then asked to become one flesh.

It's not only amazing, it's ingenious. A perfect illustration of God & mankind.

But what do we do?

We don't like that opposing nature thing, so we go online to find others who have the same interests, thinking their compatible.

We read books and watch movies and listen to songs, all driven by emotion (which are all wrong. Btw)

We say things like "we fell in love" or "I'm falling in love."
We don't fall in love anymore than we fall in God's grace.
Let's face it, we all grew up with these sacred cows that no one dare object too.

I wonder if we got this backwards (as we do with most things)
We put the "falling" aspect in front of any relationship.
All I know is, if there is any "falling in love" it happens 20 years into the marriage.
That's when you truly know what the other is made of.
And that's why I can honestly and Truthfully say, I love my wife more today, than I did 31 years ago and mean it,and I must admit, that feels so good to say.

We both know that's not of our doing,  which makes it real.

So what's the secret to a long and growing marriage?
I have no clue.
And neither does anyone else outside God's Word.
Even as believers in Jesus, we can't define it.
If we could define it, we wouldn't need the Holy Spirits daily  revealing it to us.
How can anyone define a life's journey?

So on this day, as I reflect on all the earthly  relationships I've had, with friends & family, in my 53 years on this earth, the one I value most is the one that has remained faithful & constant for a total of almost 34 years.

Thank you Mindy, for 31 wonderful, many times difficult, always  exciting and always maturing in Christ Jesus.. Years of marriage.

( let's go for 30 more :-)
Just as it says, in the opening, of the old 1940's radio program *my Favorite husband *..

We are definitely..

"two people who live together.... And like it "






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